キノ・マクレガ―のインスタグラム(kinoyoga) - 10月10日 10時46分

Sometimes you just have to smile. Really, when things are going so wrong and you don’t know what else to do, laughter is a great tool. I love to laugh and sometimes I have to admit that my jokes come from tragedy. It’s like humor is the last resort coping mechanism for a whole swirl of crazy.
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Recently I had a conversation with someone where I devolved into silly humor - if you can call a moment when someone sits down and talks to you non-stop about themselves and all the amazing things they could teach you a conversation. To every intense thing that this person proposed to me, I had a funny story. When this person encouraged me with a lot of passion why I should hire them for a private session, I made another funny joke. But, the humor was lost. It did no good. I wasn’t heard. Bear in mind, I was sitting enjoying my day and when this person asked if they should join me. I said no, that I was tired. But that didn’t stop this person from basically occupying my time and space for a solid 30 minutes. My only escape was to excuse myself for another appointment.
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But it got me thinking about boundaries. When someone says no, it usually means no, whether that’s no, I don’t want a drink or no, I’d rather not have company or no, I don’t want to go home with you. While persistence and tenacity is awesome (I tell myself every day never to give up), empathy and sensitivity to others is equally important. You can’t just mow someone over with your words bc you want to. If they say they’re not open to talking they’re not open to talking and no matter how much you talk at them it won’t make a difference. Respecting other people’s and your own personal boundaries is a big statement of emotional maturity.
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Humor helps me cope but sometimes action is necessary. Like in the situation above I removed myself from the talk. I decided not to give the feedback that I felt disrespected by the invasion of my personal space and the blatant disregard of my stated wishes for solitude. But I do wonder if I could have or should have said something. If the person was a friend I would have for sure. But instead I just walked away and had to laugh to myself at the absurdity of it all.

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