Ashley Jamesのインスタグラム(ashleylouisejames) - 4月1日 16時30分

When you finally get a baby-free weekend... This reel was inspired by real events. 🤣

I'm currently on a train going to I don't-know-where as Tommy has organised a baby-free weekend for my birthday. So excited!

We've had a couple of baby-free evenings now and honestly all I do is dream of watching Netflix and getting an early night! 🤣

But apparently there is an actual expression for it and it's called "touched-out" and it's a really common thing for mums to feel.

When you have a baby or toddler that is constantly after physical contact - be it touching, pulling, cuddling, pinching, in some cases breastfeeding, - you are left not wanting any physical touch from anyone else.

Dr. Laura Venuto, a psychologist who specializes in maternal mental health says: "Mothers find they reach a point where they become averse to physical contact and want a time-out of sorts for their bodies.”

Basically it's a really normal thing that lots of us experience that not many people talk about. And often it creates a feeling of guilt because you worry about your partner and your relationship. Especially when you announce you're going away and often there's lots of well-meaning jokes from friends about what you'll get up to! But I think it's important to know it's normal, and it's so important to communicate how you feel with your partner and find ways to seek out emotional and physical space.

Whilst I'm really outgoing and very extraverted in that I love performing and being with people, I'm also a massive introvert. I recoup and recharge in my own space. So going from being single to then having a very independent relationship to then living together in a lockdown environment to having a baby - there's been lots of change adjustment! I think the dynamic in ALL relationships change when there's a baby and you need open communication!

Anyway, a slightly serious caption for an incredibly silly video but just to share that this is actually a thing.

Now I'm excited to find out where we are off to... We've got 3 nights so enough time to properly unwind (and watch Netflix and sleep 🤪) 🥰🤸‍♀️🚂

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