ギャランス・ドレのインスタグラム(garancedore) - 4月8日 23時30分

This weekend I totally, radically got rid of my clothes. What’s left is mostly jeans, tee-shirts & sneakers. Gonna let this sit for a little bit, and then do another pass.
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I’ll resell, regift & recycle.
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Going through all this (I guess Mary Kondo style though I haven’t read her book) is so difficult. We hold on to so much stuff without realizing the weight it carries.
I still had a lot of weird clothes from old fashion weeks even though I my intention is never to go to another fw. It made me giggle (& feel sad for my old self that freaked out about “what to wear” before these) that there are clothes that I could ONLY wear for one type of event - the type where I was trying to be someone else than myself.
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Clothes that cost so much money that even if I was not wearing them, I wouldn’t want to get rid of them. Twisted - shows how expensive things often own us more than we own them...
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But also clothes that I bought too fast because they were cheap. Low prices often make us feel like it’s “nothing”: we can buy & think later. We can “return easy!!!” - except we never do because the low price doesn’t incentivize us (a whole industry is built on thoughtless buying - it’s destroying the planet) - think even if you buy cheap!
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Clothes that I love but that carry so much emotional weight. Hard! That jacket I wore with that man on that date. That dress I wore when I received that award. This bag I bought with my first big paycheck.
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Oh, the clothes that “will come back in fashion” - so what, am I waiting to get old enough that fashion will have made a full cycle & I can wear stuff from 20 years ago “hey guys I ACTUALLY SAW DISCO!!!” 👵🏼🤪😂
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Then there is my essentials - that I wear so much they get old & sad without me seeing it. These are the hardest! I just have to get used to replacing them soon enough. New pair of Rondini, Gucci loafers, Repetto...
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Was hard! I had to have my sister on the phone yelling “Come on! LET GO!!! You don’t want your closer to look like thrift store!!!” TOUGH LOVE Laetitia 😭
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So for now it’s going to be jeans & tees until I get inspired again. Yup these earrings in the photo? They’re probably only good in photos 🤗 ahah!!!

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pamela.in.oz777 @naecole My son started a part time casual job cooking for KFC when he was 14. Because he was always reliable, punctual, hardworking and polite he kept that job all the way through school and univ. Saving almost all the money he earned as he lived at home. By the time he was old enough to get a driver's licence he'd bought his first car. Second hand, v old, cheap but reliable and safe enough to drive around town. Paid for entirely from his own savings. He didn't need to borrow a cent. He was so proud - as we were of him. At university he studied a B.Com in accountancy and learned about investment analysis and the stockmarket. He decided he wanted to try his hand at actual investing. It was during the v early days of the tech rise. So he studied the sector and market and bought in, in a small way, on young tech company floats. Shares that floated at 50 cents each. Using his own savings from casual employment, no loans or credit cards. He sold out of these when they hit $5.00 a share. Of course he had to pay capital gains tax. But he was still way ahead. Eventually when he and his then girlfriend, now wife, were ready to buy their first house he sold all the shares and used the money as a deposit. While the tech boom was still at its height. He has since through hardwork and careful planning built up a successful consultancy while his wife runs her own unrelated internet business. Their older daughter is following in her Dad's footsteps. At 14 she found herself part time casual employment, also working in the food industry as he did, different company. She saves almost all her money with just a little for pocket money. She's learning about the work ethic, punctuality and reliability, hard work, how to deal with difficult people, how to get on with her employers and fellow workers. And how to value money that she's worked hard for and doesn't want to fritter away. It's not always easy for her. She's had to make decisions about chosing whether to go out somewhere fun with her friends or be reliable and do her casual shift at work. It's been six months already and she's proud of what she's achieved and saved. We all are to.

pamela.in.oz777 @naecole You may have read statistics but I don't think you've grasped what life was like for many people during the Depression of the 30s. Both my grandfathers lost their jobs, through no fault of their own. There was no dole as we know it today, limited as it may be. There were dry goods rations, to be collected from a central point at set dates. With no income my maternal grandfather couldn't pay tramfare. He lived in what was then an outer suburb but he walked in to the collection point. He carried a smaĺl suitcase for the flour, sugar and tea and carried the weight home again. My mother said he wore out his shoes and his feet were bleeding by the time he got home. Altogether, it took a day each time to do this. They had milk, cream, butter (made by my granny) and eggs. Because they kept two cows and chickens on their large outer suburban block. They also grew their own vegetables and fruit trees. My grandmother made cakes to order and catered. She sewed and knitted for people. My grandfather made wooden toys from offcuts. When the girls were 14 they left school to look for work to help support the fsmily. My mother went in on the same day each week for two months to a big department store to apply for work. Always neat and clean and punctual. Eventually they were impressed by her persistence and manners snd gave her a job. She kept a fraction of her meagre earnings as a 14 year old to pay her tramfare to work plus a very little pocket money for herself. The rest went towards paying rent for their house and supporting the family. That's how many people lived in the 30s. So don't think of it as some lucky age when houses were cheap.

pamela.in.oz777 @naecole I read on Instagram and FB so many posts of young people disposing of quite attractive clothes and accessories because they want to reduce their wardrobes. Why did they spend money on them in the first place? Is my question. I still wear some of my mother's clothes - they're beautiful. I also buy some of my clothing in Op shops, as does my dil. I've found fabulous designer clothes there, including for my husband. What I don't like is Gen X criticising Boomers because we were frugal in our lifestyles and managed to buy a house that we now own. We supported our families, looked after our parents in their old age and give to charity. We never felt entitled to anything. We worked and saved for everything we have. No-one gave us any money to help us buy a house. After I retired I worked as a volunteer in an Op Shop. We are not responsible for the current economic situation. So stop blaming us. And for those who think they can cheer thrmselves up by shopping. Don't. Save instead. That's what we, our parents and grandparents did. Until they could afford finally to spend some money on themselves without putting it all on a card. But my mother was always giving to charities and needy people. In fact she was preyed on by people because of her generosity. There are younger people than myself who hang about retirement villages ( even though they have no relatatives there) telling the old ladies hard luck stories, and yet drive the latest model cars and dress in latest fashion clothes. I've seen and met them. It happened to my aunt too.

naecole @pamela.in.oz777 It sounds like you have a wonderful family and you should be incredibly proud! I too have a hard working, educated and loving family. Not everyone is as lucky, and it does also have a lot to do with luck I’m afraid. There are people today, in America & the Uk (I live in Scotland) who are starving & can not afford to live comfortably on what they earn. That is a fact, our systems do not function for the benefit of the people. Some of those people work just as hard as our families & do not reap the same reward for many reasons. (I actually think the housing stats were from the US in the 50s! But it stands, houses are much more expensive comparative to earnings, especially where I live) Constantly looking back at past generations efforts is valuable & should be applauded but I think it’s more important to empower future generations, not criticise them. We’re in a different time- the comparison is unfair & unhelpful.

mariolagrixti @garancedore love your post - our possessions or things that we hold onto don’t define who we are - having more doesn’t make you happier or better than someone who has less - I totally agree that letting things go by donating, selling or gifting has a freeing effect on your mind - “less is definitely more”. As I’m getting older my wardrobe is more geared towards comfort with some style - after all these years I still make mistakes when I buy clothing but I’m being more mindful / I have decided to put a self made sign on my dash in the car to remind me “buy only if you need it” I have told my children not to buy me things other than a lunch or dinner for birthdays mother’s day etc. - if I need something I’ll buy it myself

rackkandruin I need to really dedicate time and energy to shedding layers of clothes from my closet. 98% of which is vintage I’ve found thrifting (a rush I’ll never be able to shed) - thrifting’s low price tag, and the knowledge that my secondhand purchase didn’t directly contribute to the demise of the planet/shit labor practices, is totally an enabler for me. I need to remember that just because it’s secondhand and $2 doesn’t mean that it is better off coming home with me and eventually ending up in my floordrobe pile.

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