Ashley Jamesさんのインスタグラム動画 - (Ashley JamesInstagram)「I finally have my own positive birth story... ❤️ Well hey. So much has happened in the last 5 weeks I don't quite know where to begin, so I thought I'd start here. I have been so excited to share this moment with you. If I could relive one day for the rest of my life, I think it would be the day we met Ada. 💙 It wasn't without complications (I'll share more on that at some point), but it was the most surreal and heavenly day. I really really wanted a positive birth with Alfie. I did everything 'right' and I went in with no fear. My birth took 22 months to recover physically, and emotionally even longer. I realised the extent of that trauma when I found out I was pregnant with Ada. I was SO happy and yet the thought or talk of birth made me cry. I just want at this point to say a massive thank you to Emiliana from @themindfulbirthgroup who talked through all the birth options with me (we have a brilliant podcast episode all about it on my podcast: Mum's the Word). I also did her C Section preparation course. Anyway, everything was just so lovely. We stayed in a hotel the night before, just Tommy and I. The whole morning was so surreal that by the time I lay on the operating bed I was in floods of (happy) tears. I got to enjoy my C Section music playlist and I still listen to the songs every day reliving that moment🎶 Meeting Ada, knowing that she was healthy. Seeing Alf again. Him meeting her. In a way I'm grateful for my traumatic first birth - don't get me wrong, I wish I hadn't had one. But it's given me true empathy. I often hear people saying: "you only hear negative birth stories / horror stories" - but I don't know a single person who CHOOSES a negative story. Everyone hopes for a positive one. Yes I agree the just you wait comments are very unhelpful, unnecessary, and unnerving. But as someone with a 'negative' story: why do we expect women to stay silent? Keep their stories to themselves like dirty secrets. How can anything improve if we stay silent? But anyway, I'm just so grateful to the amazing doctors and midwives. 🙏 The moment I finally met my beautiful Ad. I'll never forget the moment they placed her on my chest. 💙」4月10日 19時02分