Ashley Jamesさんのインスタグラム写真 - (Ashley JamesInstagram)「What being single for so long taught me about relationships, and how to be single positive whilst in a relationship. ❤️ I know, I know, I talk about it all the time, I was single for 6 years! Yet, I experienced so many highs and lows, and went on such a journey that I'm now passionate about sharing the lessons I wish I'd learnt sooner. I want to help find happiness in single status, or have the courage to leave toxic relationships knowing that being single is not as bad as society would have us believe. ✨ Being on my own for so long and the adventures and self love I picked up on the way enabled me to attract the first truly healthy relationship I've had. It's Drama free. I used to depend on someone else for my happiness, which meant I needed control so I'd be jealous or play games - or allow others to do that with me. I don't NEED a relationship for my happiness, which means it's an independent relationship. We don't hold each other back or stop each other from seeing friends and having a life without the other. I realised the fear of 'being crazy' is something society invented to let men get away with bad behaviour. It's not crazy to communicate feelings and boundaries - it creates respect. I realised I'm whole on my own, so don't need or desire to be someone's 'other' or 'better' half. I don't need saving. Taking my energy away from finding a man or love, meant I put it into the love that was already around me... My amazing best friends. I don't need a 'best friend' because I've already got some. I can be in love and have a deep connection without ditching my mates. So how can we be single positive in relationships? 🙌🏼 Put a consistent effort into friendships...I plan to see my friends because I want to, not because they can slot into the nights my boyfriend has plans. I invite my single friends to things I'm doing... No exclusionary 'couple nights' for me. I don't try and set my friends up with whichever random single person I can think of or ask them when they're going to 'settle down'. They're more than their relationship status. What other lessons has being single taught you?」7月5日 19時51分