ギャランス・ドレのインスタグラム(garancedore) - 2月3日 01時14分

Be radical*
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I used to beat myself up so much about the things that didn’t make me feel good. The people, the remarks, the comments, or even Instagram accounts I used to follow to “stay informed” but that would make me feel a bad taste in my mouth each time I would open it. .

I beat myself up because I have always wanted to be a loving, understanding, kind, curious person. I wanted to understand all cultures (I even tried to stick to watching one full season of the Kardashians to try to “get it”!!!)(I don’t. But it’s ok, some people do and if it’s their jam then good!)
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And then one day I started to understand how much this way of thinking was hurting me. Many friendships where hurtful and empty, some aspects of our culture would get to me in a frightening way, and my social media feeds (which sometimes I think is a miniature version of what we let in in our life) would literally hurt my eyes and my heart. .
Slowly I became radical. Being radical to me means being able to say no without justifying or intellectualizing. It’s hard. It’s really hard. The hardest is to let go of relationships. Wooof! Hard. I started unfollowing anything that didn’t make me happy to follow, without rationalizing - bad feeling = unfollow, no judgment on myself (I now follow more @ナショナルジオグラフィック stuff, funny memes and friends than anything else). I decided to consciously choose my sources of information and subscribed to the @ニューヨーク・タイムズ because it is important to pay for good information even if you don’t read a tenth of it. Oh, and I block anyone that leaves unconstructive nasty comments. I unsubscribe to any newsletter i didn’t invite in my mailbox. Etc, etc, etc. .

You get it. .
Few years of this and my life is completely, entirely, incredibly softer. And I feel that, without all this unnecessary irritants all around me, I am actually a kinder, curious and more understanding person, the way I wanted to be. But I am also a radical, and it doesn’t mean I am an asshole - it just means that you can’t be soft, vulnerable and open if you’re not also very chivalrous about protecting yourself... . * Now about that word radical, keep reading in the coms...

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