ニーナ・メルセデスのインスタグラム(lifewithmariza) - 1月16日 08時07分

Anyone in a relationship? What’s that look like for you?
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I was talking to some friends today about relationships. I believe too many people out there don’t even know HOW they want to be loved.
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A lot of people are in relationships feeling lonely. People juggling relationships with multiple people. Some just settling for less not realizing there is more out there.
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People in general are complicated human beings. We don’t all perceive love the same. Many of us were taught how to love by our parents or from the people who raised us. The things we saw growing up is how we see love.
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Has anyone had that friend that thinks constant fighting and arguing is love? Maybe growing up in their household that was normal? They were programmed to perceive love in that way. They found someone with the same thought process and we sit back and say that’s sad meanwhile they are happy.
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I perceive love in many ways but not the same as many. For me love is acts of kindness. The words don’t mean that much to me. It’s what are you doing to show me you love me.
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I think it’s a huge turn off when someone says “let me take care of you or you should be with someone who spoils you” I don’t equate money to love. I’m good making my own money I’m not lazy. Buying me things isn’t love. Spending time with me on vacation or just a simple lunch date is showing me you love me.
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Compliments make me uncomfortable and I hate strangers touching me especially men lol. Growing up my parents weren’t affectionate to us. So I am not affectionate in the general sense. I’m not making out in public, I’ll hold your hand but don’t act up lol. I’m not a hopeless romantic in fact I hate romance movies.
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My advice in regards to relationships is read the 5 love languages of love or take the test. Find out how you perceive love. Then as you get into relationships find out about the person, their past and their family. Figure out how they see love. Make sure your a match or that you understand each other.
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❤️Love languages: receiving gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, and physical touch. Which are you?
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