Paige Reillyのインスタグラム(paigereilly) - 5月23日 08時08分
One of my biggest flaws is being too independent, or thinking I need to be fully independent (to a fault). Sounds weird I know but -
We all know, I am an introvert lol. I am shy, quiet, HATE speaking up, standing up for myself, and causing any type of confrontation WHATSOEVER. I don't want to bother people or cause any issues, so instead, I just pull back from the situation and walk away. This sounds so horrible as I put it into words, but lately I have really noticed this trait and realized how self-destructive it can be.
Throughout my whole life, if someone doesn’t respect me, if I don't like a situation, etc - INSTEAD of speaking up, facing the issue, asking for what I believe I deserve, I just walk away from a situation and "do it on my own". I don't want to fight about things or fight for respect because confrontation is the biggest enemy for me, walking away is just easier. I have become too comfortable with "being independent" to the point where instead of trying to fix something which could require possible confrontation, or an uncomfortable situation - I go, eh, I'm out, I can do it on my own, because I've always been fine on my own.
I've had many times in my life where I feel that I am not enough, and I don't WANT TO have to prove myself to people, so I just walk away. I don't want to ask for help when I need it because I've always just resorted to figuring things out on my own. It's such a weird thing because having independence is a necessary quality to have, but mine is somewhat rooted from negative situations in my life.
This "loner" mentality has now made it SO hard for me to have those difficult conversations and SPEAK UP when I need something, want something, or simply just need help because my whole life, I just walk away and figure it out on my own.
But, you can't change what you don't acknowledge and these past few months have definitely had me in my head a lot and really breaking down some of my traits and behaviors and understanding WHY I do them. Sometimes you gotta call yourself out to grow & I have grown so much in the past few years on this journey and it's time to grow in this sense too.
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