Ilana Wilesのインスタグラム(mommyshorts) - 8月15日 00時34分

As my kids get older, and the kids of the people I follow get older, I see a lot of posts about starring in the school play, playing a concerto on the piano, winning the science fair and making the team. I do not begrudge any parent for bragging about these legitimately amazing things. But I feel the need to give a shout out to the rest of us! Mazzy and Harlow are in a theater camp putting on Snow White this week. Mazzy is a forest creature and Harlow is a bat. They are excited. I told Mazzy there are no small players! For all the after school activities we do, we have not really figured out their “things” yet. I always wonder if I should be pushing them harder or if that would just backfire anyway. I still think they are amazing. I think they are smart and funny and packed with potential. I let them shine and celebrate them at home. #mazzyandharlow #thebigkidyears

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misskirsty84 Growing up, I wasn’t amazing at anything. I didn’t come first in anything. I never got the best part. Nothing was above average. I did well enough, but I was never in first place. And that’s how I felt at school. Never at the top. But at home, I always felt amazing and special, because my parents were just like you. They saw my potential, and they never let me forget it. Now, as an adult, I’ve found my place in the world, and I am actually really good at what I do. I’m appreciated and I’m loved and I feel good. But I often look back, and remember how I felt at school, and I am just so grateful that my parents didn’t push me to do what the other kids did. To be someone else. They knew I’d find my “thing” and they stood by and cheered me on, until I found it. I’ve never been more grateful for anything. I have absolutely no doubt, that your amazing girls will feel exactly the same way about you.

susellwrites My daughter has been dancing since she was 3. She wanted to take the rec class, then another and another. She pushed her self to move up, audition and place in the harder more serious classes. I used to try to discourage her from taking too many classes. Now she is applying to colleges to double major or professional level minor in dance. She loves it. When they find their thing— they know it and they push themselves— because they love it. When parents push— it often falls apart. And sometimes what they love is helping others, being a peer mentor. Joining a leadership club. My son is still seeking. He’s a freshman this year. I told him he has to try three clubs this year. Just try something. I know he will find his thing. On his own time.

donnamarielacey My son (pianist) has accompanied kids (age 5-16) in high quality student theatre program for several summers. Some of the talented students are referred to as “triple-threats” (singing, acting and dancing lessons year-round) and also quite stressed & anxious. They (and parents) put a lot of pressure on themselves/their kids. You are doing the right thing Ilana! You give Mazzy and Harlow so many opportunities to explore and learn. They are brilliant, funny and kind. And tuned in to current events, equal rights, social justice, et al. Music lessons are great - if they want them. That’s my humble opinion 😂 Have a lovely day!

fosley YES. We try the things and work hard and we have fun! We are excited about finishing, participating, and experiencing. I wondered if my insta friends would think celebrating a fifth place ribbon at a volunteer track meet was strange, but don’t really care. It was super fun and my seven year old girl was stoked! We haven’t found her thing yet either, and I’m sometimes frustrated by the notion of trying to be the best at one thing, practically from birth. I am glad others do it their own way, but I think keeping an open mind and learning to try new things is a great approach. ❤️

cjrob215 Im sure thats why i love your posts. The pushing, the gloating, the bragging, gets OLD for a lot of reasons, not the least of which is as a mom of 30 something's I KNOW that what they do as children does not necessarily make them kind, thoughtful, civil adults. And no matter what else, thats what i want in fellow humans. All the other accomplishments are personal & not that interesting to people outside of the family anyway. And lets face it who are they truly promoting? So Mommy Short you keep doing you & your kids will keep showing the rewards. ❣️❣️

lizpalvere So agree! It’s hard as parents - who have gone to college, work hard for success and have high expectations of ourselves and our families - to not push. But if you stop and truly reflect on what makes young people turn into incredible adults, it’s not pressure and over-scheduling. That doesn’t create imagination and self-motivation. Exposure without pressure, reading, friendship, unconditional love and some sheer boredom create kids who have get up and go and a love of exploration. You are doing those things!!

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