Cory Richardsのインスタグラム(coryrichards) - 2月22日 10時03分

Post Valentine’s Day//I hear this a lot: “I can’t find anyone real who meets my standards.” Food for thought: I’d offer that our lists of desires might be getting in the way. I’ve watched people find the wealthiest partner with the best body who is a tantric god only to discover the wealth comes from an unbalanced work life, the body comes from a degree of self obsession, and the sex god(ess) often comes from an internal deficit and a hyper sexualized culture. I’ve watched the same people compromise themselves because they’re holding on to an ideal. This doesn’t mean don’t explore things like manifestation. Give it a go! I do. But also ask couples who have been in healthy partnership for 30 yrs. This is an observation of high vs unrealistic expectations, often sold on the heels of things *like manifestation/“living our best spiritual life”. I wonder if we might be assimilating spirituality to fit our desires…which seems antithetical. Maybe that’s an act of control. We don’t find perfect people much as it seems that way when nights are long and sweaty (thanks oxytocin!) I wonder if what’s most important is carefully defining our values instead of a tick list of must-haves. I wonder if consistency and safety are the highest virtues in healthy relationships. In safety, we can show up as we are. Finances can wax and wane. We can be honest because we know we’re got. And yes, find safety in yourself first. But keep in mind that we can be safe in ourselves only to be terribly unsafe in relationship. It’s a two way street. If we can’t find anyone “real”, maybe we’re being unrealistic. Maybe our standards are driving potential partners to be an un-real version of themselves. Maybe fair and equal aren’t always the same. Maybe perfection is actually compromise through careful consideration and maturity. This doesn’t mean settle. In my experience, and unsurprisingly, more money, a beautiful partner, chiseled abs, notoriety, and all the sex in the world has never made me feel any more authentic or safe. Maybe perfection is perception. Idk. Let’s touch base in 30 yrs. After all, I’m just a single guy unwilling to settle…😏 Also, I lied. I’ve never had chiseled abs.

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