ニューヨーク・タイムズさんのインスタグラム写真 - (ニューヨーク・タイムズInstagram)「There’s a lot to be scared of during a pandemic. But when people share their fears with you, what do you say? It may feel as if you’re offering comfort with a comment meant to lift their spirits — “You’ve got this!” “I know you’ll be fine!” But responding to someone’s expression of distress with an unhelpful, cheerful attitude is what the psychotherapist @sitwithwhit calls dismissive, or toxic, positivity. You should also steer clear of fixing or reframing negative emotions. A better way to phrase your concern is by using reflection, validation and curiosity, and in that order, suggests @angelcityholistictherapy, a licensed marriage and family therapist. Whatever their stresses, “help them feel normal about having feelings during a pandemic,” Fregoso said. “All feelings are valid.” And if you’ve said the wrong thing, you can still fix it. Tap the link in our bio for more ways to respond, and ways not to. Illustration by @danielle_rhoda.」7月11日 10時14分