ニーナ・メルセデスさんのインスタグラム写真 - (ニーナ・メルセデスInstagram)「Just a reminder to live your life on your terms. Listening and following your heart alongside your faith is the only thing that matters. You don’t need outside validation or approval for how you choose your live as long as you are not harming yourself or others. Everyone has an opinion about you and oddly feels free to express it even when it hurts. My advice is not to let it sink in keep that chatter on the outside. Sometimes people don’t consider how mean they are being when they say things in passing. My dad made a comment about my weight one afternoon when he was leaving. I can tell you the time of day, the season, where he was standing and what I was wearing. It was one comment about my weight and I took it so personal that I went to extremes to weight around 110. I was hyper-obsessed with my weight from that day until I healed. I’m sure he didn’t mean it in that way but that’s how it affected me. I took a comment made and let it seep in and change who I was in an unhealthy way. Looking back I should have shrugged it off with the understanding that my weight is not up for public opinion. I wake up with myself daily which makes me aware of myself. Weight gain or loss is most times caused by emotional wounds we’ve not healed. When triggered food becomes our silent comfort. It’s the only vice that no one questions in fact people encourage it. I suffered in silence so I comforted myself in silence as well. Replacing “your getting fat Mariza, watch your weight” could have easily been replaced with a hug and the question “what’s going on, do you want to talk” be aware of how your words could affect those you love. Can I tell you something? You are not behind in life. You don’t need to suffer in silence. You are enough, you are not the number on the scale and your not defined by other people’s opinions. In life we all make mistakes because you learn when you fail. Bad things happen to us that are not our fault. You are doing great and I’m proud of you! Live your life in such a way that when you wake up you feel good. You are happy and excited for the day. Don’t let anyone tell you how to live your life. You were born perfect my love, be you! Just be happy!」7月7日 9時26分