アナリン・マッコードのインスタグラム(theannalynnemccord) - 7月18日 00時15分
This is the kind of closure I’m bringing into my 32nd year. We‘re taught to hold on to our pain. We‘re taught to “never forget”. We are taught these things with the belief that if we keep track of what’s happened we can’t get hurt again.
Well, first the fuck of all, that is some bulllllshit.com. One thing I can promise you, you WILL get hurt again. The point that NO ONE bothers to teach us (or to help us see) is how much stronger we are that ‘next time’ we get hurt. What society does not like to teach is that when someone hurts us it‘s a lot less about us and a lot more about them. The problem with believing that “being wronged is nothing” only comes when we need external validation of our pain. — if I need you to say to me, “That is so horrible, what you went through! you poor thing,” then I MUST remember all the times I’ve been wronged and therefore being wrong IS something. To me. It’s something that allows me to get sympathy. Sympathy which is VERY DIFFERENT than support. Support we must have to heal and move forward. Sympathy can become addictive. I know. Trust me. I used to cut up my arms because I was so numb. I just wanted to feel something. Then, one day a guy I liked noticed my cuts. I tried to hide them but he grabbed my wrist. He freaked out and started pouring out all of this sympathy - I felt like I was being loved. I felt like someone finally cared. Did that make me stop harming. No. I started cutting more. I’d pull my sleeve up a bit so he might see it again. Because maybe he‘d love me again. It felt so good to have someone react with concern for me. I just wanted to feel it again. And again. Not his fault AT ALL, but his reaction was not support. And the way I perceived it made me want to keep hurting myself to feel his sympathy again and again. When we hold on to how we’ve “been wronged” we cut ourselves over and over just with someone else’s knife. But WE are the ones doing the cutting. I’m done hurting myself. I’m done remembering wrongs. Justice is important, but not at the expense of my healing.
The only validation that will ever truly validate you is your own. The only love that will save you is the love already inside you. i❤️u2 tho:)
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mongoon68
Wow!!! Well I can tell you this from my personal struggles prison.10 yrs for cocaine trafficking .32 yrs of cocaine addiction that's what I did too cover up my pain and abuse I went thru with my father physical.emotional .so for a fact I know you can't let the past affect your future .the past is the past .I've been thru hell and back twice.finally in August 2017 I had enough of being homeless ,no self dignity ,shit friends , no boundaries ,whole length of my left leg blood clot could of killed me .but I moved from Atlanta GA.out here to Washington been clean two years August 12.flipped a car on interstate 85 u know where that is rolled it bout length of a football field so had artificial discs put in back last September got my social security disability on top of my mental health .ADHD.ptsd .anxiety I feel you.but one thing for sure JESUS CHRIST IS REAL IM NOT PERFECT BY NO MEAN BUT I WORKOUT ? ENJOY MY LIFE AND PUR MYSELF AROUND POSITIVE PEOPLE.IN THE LONG RUN YOU CANT CONQUER WHAT YOUR NOT WILLING TO CONFRONT.❤️U GURL MY PRAYERS AND THOUGHTS GO OUT TO YOU .YOUR ONE HELL OF SN ACTRESS I KNOW THAT .
louiseallisonhague
I love that you put up something like this as I was a foster child from the age of 3 to 16 and I didn't ever look back just kept looking forward their is always people who have said I couldn't do this and I couldn't do that but now I'm 27 been with my partner for 10 years made him sit threw every episode of 90210 😂😂 and now we have a 2 bedroom house with a 5 year old little girl he's had cancer and he won that battle after 15 years of searching I found my younger brother and I'm currently going down the lines to meet him I have always looked to the future and I wish some their people would do this to 💜❤️
healingcrystal11
Thank you this was great! I’m a cancer rising rising and basically live in my past. I try to find support, but so many people just say they can’t talk to me because I’m looking for sympathy and I’m not. I continue on by myself but can’t help but notice everyone projecting saying that I am. I’ve totally been there, but not when I am being accused it catches me off guard.
ozzie_luvv
Happy birthday??. I loved you ever since 90210 but until this year I had no idea what a deep personality you have under that beauty. I'm happy that my childhood idol was and turned up to someone I aspire to be. Not another disney junky who's gone crazy?
beckiholl86
I'm sorry you have been through such hurt and youre right that sympathy can be addictive and damaging, support is what is needed, and strength, my faith in Jesus helps me but i still struggle daily, pray this year is a good one for you ❤️
govertwittenboer
Smart and powerful. Thank you for sharing, I am sure a lot of people can find support due to this. It might be more clear for them to know what support looks and feels like. Once more happy birthday!
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