イアン・ハーディンクのインスタグラム(ianmharding) - 5月13日 01時47分

#repost Wonderfully written by @elizabeth_gilbert_writer : ・・・
Recently I was at a conference where the question was asked, “HOW MANY OF YOU ARE AFRAID OF TURNING INTO YOUR MOTHER?” Nearly everyone in the room stood up. This made my heart ache. My heart ached not only for the people in the room—who were all beautiful, creative, imaginative, and wonderful human beings. It made my heart hurt for their mothers—who will never stop being judged as failures. Because, my God, we never stop blaming the mothers, do we? How many years, how many dollars, how much energy have we all spent as a culture, talking about how mothers have failed us? What I want to say today is: Can we take a break—just for one day —and show some mercy to the mothers? Because being a mother is impossible. I don’t mean that it’s difficult. I mean: IT IS IMPOSSIBLE. What we, as a culture, expect from our mothers is merely that they not be human. Mothers are meant to be some combination of Mother Mary, Mother Theresa, Superwoman, and Gaia. It’s a merciless standard of perfection. Merciless! God help your mother, if she ever fell short. God help your mother, if she was exhausted & overwhelmed. God help her if she didn’t understand her kids. God help her if she no gift for raising children. God help her if she had desires and longings. God help her if she was ever terrified, suicidal, hopeless, bored, confused, furious. God help her if life had disappointed her. God help her if she had an addiction, or a mental illness. God help her if she ever broke down. God help her, if couldn’t control her rage. God help her, because if she fucked up in any way, she will be forever branded: BAD MOTHER. And we will never forgive her for this. So this is my question: Can we take a break today from judging the mothers, and show them mercy, instead? This doesn’t mean that what happened to you at the hands of your mother was OK. This doesn’t mean that your pain is not real...it just means that maybe her pain was real, too.And if you are yourself a mother, and you never stop judging yourself for how you are failing...can you let it go for one day? Just for one day

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s.rivas2004 @ianmharding I love my mom a lot but sometimes we have a bad relationship with each other, when my mom gets angry she starts to call me names and say things that I didn’t know she was going to say it in my face. What I’m really trying to say is that I’m scared and afraid of my mom sometimes. It breaks my heart when we have a fight and it takes week for her to forget what happened. Your story made me cry and think about the times me and my mom were happy with each other. Everyday I wake up I pray to god that today will be a good day! Sometimes my mom breaks me in millions of pieces, for calling me names such as “b***h, stupid, useless, disrespectful, etc” I know it sounds like a you problem but if there’s any advice, I would like to hear them!

nicolawemyss96 This is the best thing I have read all day. Inspired. My mother's always taught me to be truthful and if you haven't got anything nice to say don't say it at all. She taught me morals and respect. I am always greatful for that. I have had times where I have said I hate you to her( felt awful afterwards) she gives good advice.. I just wish she would listen to mine? love you mum

brandtmom07 @ianmharding Beautiful! I have never blamed for anything except for teaching me how to be a strong and faithful woman. I have taken this day to be thankful for her and thankful that I am a Mom to two amazing sons. All we can all do is our best. God bless you Ian and your beautiful Mom.

michelefields69 ❤️My mother was wonderful! She didn't believe my tall tales, but who would? She has passed and I mirror her in some ways then again l am the complete opposite! What l learned from her was to allow my child to have wings and be themselves! I was over sheltered but that was out of Love!

julianamelooficial ❤️Basta agradecer porque Deus deu um ser maravilhoso para nos amar, ela não tem que ser perfeita tem que ser mãe, com seus erros e acertos, porque ninguém é perfeito 😍

ivymaymi ❤️ beautifully written! Thank you @ianmharding for this reminder.... May my own kids never stand up in a room and do that to me. God bless!

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